Confidance Coach

Posted on February 10, 2013


I’ve been thinking of seeing a confidance coach. Whilst i’m a confidant person I feel like something deep inside of me has been knocked and i’ve been creating negative affirmations without even realising. Actually that’s a lie. I’m aware i’ve been doing it, but I can’t seem to stop it.

I wander if this could be responsible for my interview nerves.

I just came across some confidance coaching tips online, and thought i’d work through them before I get an early night so I can sleep well and have nice dreams! Not going to answer all the questions as I’m quite tired and my brain hurts, but I feel like I shall continue with this a bit tomorrow before Interview 1 of next week

A. Self appreciation

Write a list of your top 7 qualities. These are what make you unique.  Carry these around with you everyday and read them to remind yourself who you are and what makes you special.

1. Ability to make people feel good about themselves

2. Sense of humour and lighthearted look at life, even when the shit is hitting the fan (and inside i’m crumbling)

3. Relatively easy going and friendly, even to total strangers and annoying elderly people at bus stops

4. Ability to look at every situation from the other person’s viewpoint and not hold judgement

5. Desire to live life to the fullest and experience every possible taste, sight and sensation/feeling

6. I don’t hold grudges. I believe everyone makes mistakes and for all sorts of reasons. I don’t believe people are inherently bad or evil.

7. My desire to create a world that protects, nurtures, and supports the lives of others.

B. Write a list of past successes

Think about the times in your life when you’ve been successful at something. Write a list of all of these and remind yourself of how you did this and how great it felt when you’d achieved your goals. Use this past experience to fuel your self-belief and confidence for achieving your goals in the future.


C. Don’t put yourself down

D. Choose positive role models

By looking at others in a constructive and positive way rather than negatively comparing then we can help ourselves. Look at others with a glowing self-confidence and notice their characteristics. Pick up words and body language that they use and add this to your own repertoire.

E. Accept compliments

Being able to accept, believe and feel good about accepting compliments is crucial to cultivating a high self-confidence. The best way to accept compliments is to look the person in the face, smile and say thank-you. This will in turn also make them feel good. Looking embarrassed, looking down and feeling uncomfortable will also make them feel uncomfortable, and so no one is a winner in this scenario!

F. Positive affirmations

Using positive affirmations everyday is really effective as you’re talking to your sub conscious where all your negative thoughts are stored. Pick 3 strong statements, which literally make a negative self-belief into a positive one. For example, if you believe you’re not a confident person then “I am a confident person” should be one of your positive affirmations that you say everyday. Say your positive affirmations out loud while looking in the mirror as this makes them stronger because you’re connecting with yourself.

G. Constructive self talk

We all have an irrational and rational voice. Use constructive questioning on yourself to ensure the irrational voice gets less airtime than the rational voice. Keep practicing this, as it will give you an overwhelming sense of control over your negative inner voice, which is invaluable in many situations in life.

H. Take care of yourself

Take time out to nurture yourself. Eat well and drink less alcohol. Go to sleep early and exercise. This indicates toy yourself that you’re worthy of being cared for. Remember you deserve to take care of yourself and be taken care of!


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